Aunt Fancy

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  Video is up - Grandma pleads with JW Granddaughter

  by BONEZZ in

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  finally got it up on youtube...the title right at the moment is just "grandma" but it's going to change to "grandma pleads with jehovah's witness granddaughter.".

  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zcpuj96a8lg.

  we taped it about a week ago and my mom went into the hospital 3 days ago.

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  Aunt Fancy

  Very sad. I hope your Mom gets her wish.
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  1st Time in 3 Years JW's call at our Door - Two 30 yr. long Time JW's

  by flipper in

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  i thought i was back on the jw radar after my jw daughter had a local elder call on me back in 2011 - but apparently not.

  he obviously didn't let his elders know i lived here, no record was kept for posterity and just called my daughter telling her that her " dad has differences with the organization " because he never called back on me as he promised to talk again.

  as i'm just inactive for 10 years.. so these two older jw ladys come knocking yesterday - one lady about 57 and the other lady older about 71 yrs.old ( i asked how long they had been jw's and told me they both have been in 30 years.

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  Aunt Fancy

  Wow, you have had two great experiences lately. I wish I could stay that together to say something that might make them think and start their journey. At this point we don't answer the door because we are only 14 months out and most of them know who we are. Keep up the good work. I hope though it doesn't trigger a bunch of elders to come to your home.
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  Oops I did it again. Another mistake

  by KariOtt in

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  so it seems i made another mistake.

  i expressed negative feelings to my hubby.

  i'm not allowed to express anything but positive emotions.

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  Aunt Fancy

  Oh my KariOtt, it makes me sad to read this. You don't have to accept this type of behavior from your husband, you deserve better than this. Don't let anyone control you like this, it is not love.
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  I will give my husband the divorce he wants

  by losingit in

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  not because i agree with him.

  because i do not want the divorce.

  but because i love him and i want to respect him.

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  Aunt Fancy

  I am so sorry to hear you are going through such a difficult time. There was some excellent advice given and I hope it helps you pick yourself up and move on. Remember that you have to set the right example for your children so they don't allow a man to treat them poorly. It is hard when you have taken a vow and you love the person but he has checked out of the marriage so it is time to move on. I was very young when I went through a divorce and I didn't think I could make it but I learned very quickly that I could survive on my own and take care of my son.

  I think you should seek out counceling for yourself to help you get stronger which will help you get through this difficult time. It will also help you in the future to make better choices in a mate. Also, you may want to talk to your doctor about getting something to help you through this time, you may need an antidepressant for a short period of time until things level out. When I went through it my therapist at the time warned me that I would probably choose another man just like my ex unless I made some changes.

  You really need to get an attorney as soon as possible so you can get support for your children and yourself. He has figured out a way to keep you hanging so he doesn't have to pay right now. Protect yourself and your children. Keeping a log and writing down the episodes of abuse will help you when the time come to negotiate a settlement.

  We are here for you and you can be a strong woman and get through this. I found that every time I have gone through a difficult time I have learned from it and it has made me stronger. Think about what a successful and strong woman would do and then apply it. Hang in there.
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  Disfellowshipped but still forced to pay maintenance or alimony

  by Markw1509 in

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  2. scandals

  can i ask for your opinion?

  i have been disfellowshipped and divorced for a few years.

  my ex-wife and my daughter have cut off all contact from me.

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  Aunt Fancy

  If you are paying child support you have a right to see your daughter. Do not give up! Make arrangements through the court to have her twice a month or whatever works for you and stick with it. Take your daughter on your weekends and have a fun time and let her know how much you love her so that when she is grown she will know how much her Dad loves her.

  Don't play by the JW rules, they are not the law, they think they are but in a legal court they don't have a leg to stand on when it comes to children needing both parents. As far as spousal support there is nothing in the JW rules that would tell them not to take the money. If you are being left out of your daughters life get yourself a better attorney that will fight for your rights as a parent. You should be told what is going on in her life and the court can enforce that.
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  Disfellowshipping

  by Legacy in

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  i wanted to know if anyone on here was df'd or know of any who were...why i ask is because many of the friends i have spoken to, say it's not done, just like that.

  it's a process.

  i have spoken to a re-instated sister and she said by the time they see you, you are pretty much out.

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  The stories I have heard about this cruel practice makes me angry at times and cry at other times. There is nothing easy about it and in some cases it is long and drawn out, it can destroy lives. It is pathetic the way it is viewed by some JW's. Many don't believe in the practice (I was one of them) and it tears them apart but I have seen many who are so heartless about it and they make cold comments.

  One of the many reasons why I came out was being friends with a couple whose teenage daughter was disfellowshipped for a sex act not intercourse. The poor girl was put through an awful process and the questions she was asked were down right disgusting. They wanted to know what room of the house was she in, where did she take her cloths off, what exactly did she do and many more. It turns my stomach even thinking about it because they were all men in their 50's asking this young girl these questions. I could never look at them again with anything but distain for them.

  There is nothing loving about this process like they try to make you believe. They say it is to keep the congregation clean but we know that is all bull sh*t! There are many in those congregations who live double lives and the ones in positions can be the ones who are the worst. If you are good at sneaking around and hiding then you can get away with a lot of stuff Including child abuse in many forms.

  It is a cruel organization when it comes to how they treat ones they think are not following their rules. If your father or husband is a prominent elder then you will get a slap on the wrist but if you are just one of the rank and file you will not in most cases be treated the same. The elders kids can be some of the worst ones and they usually walk away.

  Keep reading this site and others like it and you will hear the heartache this religion has caused thousands upon thousands of people. It is a tragedy and the public should know what really goes on behind those KH walls. It isn't like other mainstream religions at all because most of them you can walk away from and your life won't change but not this one, be prepared to lose every single person you were friends with and even your family.
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  Gran is dying.

  by LouBelle in

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  my dear granny hasn't been feeling well for some time and has had a problem keeping anything down.

  she had lost a lot of weight and gone for many tests.

  those tests came back and on friday we were told she has cancer of the pancreas.

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  Aunt Fancy

  LouBelle, I am so sorry to hear about your gran, I hope she doesn't suffer too much. My grandfather had that type of cancer too.
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  Hear Ye!!!Hear Ye!! WONDERFUL GOOD NEWS!!!!

  by mouthy in

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  2. experiences

  my jw daughter called me this afternoon!!!!!

  !i am just over the moon.

  her hubby not a jw has cancer & was operated on today!!!!.

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  Aunt Fancy

  I am very happy for you and I hope it opens the way for you to have her back in your life.
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  Recording meeting

  by Fading Begins in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  first 30 min announcing a collection of bibles collected from r & f that is to go on display at bethel.

  also accounts of how they "miraculously" received bibles that they didn't think they could get - eg.

  geneva bible.. now - watchtower study review as there is no meeting tomorrow..

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  Aunt Fancy

  Thanks Fading, I appreciate that you took the time to get us this info and wrote it all out.
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  I guess I was ashamed of the JW religion...

  by Jim_TX in

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  2. friends

  when i was a kiddo growing up, i wasn't one of those that we all heard at assemblies giving their experiences... "here, let me show you the answer from the bible..." <reaching into their a** bringing out a bible>.

  no, i would sit there in the audience, and think... that person has balls to do that.. when i went to grade school, i tried to keep as low of a profile as possible.

  it was bad enough that i had to start the day by not saying the pledge of allegience like all the other school kids.

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  Aunt Fancy

  My husband had a very simular upbringing as you with the exception he was outgoing and enjoyed everyone there. He felt like you did when it came to school and not being allowed to do the fun things. The football coach begged his mom to let him play but she wouldn't give in but she did allow him to get involved it track and little league. He did have some "worldly" friends he could hang out with. They were very poor too because his parents were divorced since he was 6. Music was important in his family so she did find him a guitar and let him take lessons.

  He was treated very well by most of them but I think it was because his family was one of the original families in the city and his grandmother was one of the "anointed" and taught piano. He did have some great roll models that he is grateful to have one being Taze! He will admit that things are not the same now. The congregations did a lot more fun things together back then and the elders use to really take an interest in the youth.

  I feel for all of the born ins because a lot of their childhood was robbed. I know how uncomfortable it is to be at work and there is a birthday cake, or the Christmas party or being some place and the Pledge is said or the national anthem is played, it was always so uncomfortable for me to not be able to do those things. The child does not make their own choice, they are forced to do these things and they honestly lose out of so many levels.